None of us live up to all our spoken ideals. We pretend we do to feel good about ourselves and gain the respect of our chosen groups. I will be the first to admit that my spoken ideals are at times aspirations more than actualities. Its easy to hold up this gold standard as to how a human being should live in the world. It is much harder to attain that gold standard. It may be impossible. The ideals and the gold standards are what show up in blogs, and podcasts, and youtube,